Mirrors…

“Sometimes you gotta make the mirror your best friend Maybe then, you’ll find some peace within Stop hiding yourself, stop hiding yourself Love yourself When no one else can.” Lalah Hathaway, Mirrors As I looked at my reflection in the bathroom mirror, I smiled through toothpaste foam and loved on myself while giving thanks. In 8 days, I will be 42. *I like the number 8, infinity on its side. And, I can’t stop cheesing and grinning. I’m excited for 42* As I brushed my teeth, I held two thoughts: 1) Jesse Williams acceptance speech on the BET Awards was […]

#BlackGyrlVisible

#BlackGyrlVisible I created this saying black gyrl visible when I started working on my MFAW thesis, Womon/Black, a few years ago. This was during the time when black girl magic and talk of Black girls and women’s invisibility were really getting a new life…talks were really ramping up. Likewise, I created the hashtag about the same time that I started this blog, She BLOOMS Black. Just like I spell woman, with a vowel, “o”…women, with a vowel,”y”…I also spell girl(s) with a vowel, “y”. Woman = womon (singular) Women = womyn (singular) Girl/Girls = gyrl/gyrls (both) #BlackGyrlVisible simply aligns with […]

9 days til 42…

(Unedited) There was a time in my life when I dimmed my light and dumbed myself down to allow someone(s) else to shine. At some point God spoke to me. God be so smooth with it though…lol lol lol. S(he) rolled up on me at a jazz club (yes, The big homie does jazz) and sat next to me with a glass of red wine talmbout, “Stop it. They need to up their game and raise up to your level. Stop stooping down to them and dimming your light cos I will take it away from you.” God was gangsta […]

Reducing harm…

“Solidarity doesn’t demand agreement on political ideology. We can agree on some things and vehemently disagree with others. We have a duty to make our disagreements known while coalescing around the things we can agree on.” Mariame Kaba On a Wednesday, back in March, after a long workday and attending a candidate’s lecture for a faculty position at my alma mater, I braved winds, dampness and fatigue to attend a reading/book-signing. I went to the reading because I wanted to support the South Side Coalition on Urban Girls (SSCUG), and I wanted to hear Monique Morris talk about her new […]

Concert Review: Patti LaBelle & Commodores

Right outside of the city of Chicago, Ravinia, is the oldest outdoor music festival in the United States. The Festival is a series of outdoor concerts and performances held every summer from June to September. (Unedited) So, my mama, the bearthday gyrl, (above pic) experienced Ravinia for the first time, and she can dig it! On the train home, she looked at the festival schedule, and asked, “When is the next show?” Um, Ms. Mama, you bets get yo crew together and handle that. She is hooked now. Lol lol lol. Beyond the concert she enjoyed people watching and seeing […]

Father’s Day (Daddyless daughters)…

(Unedited) I never really thought of myself as a “daddyless/fatherless daughter” til Iyanla Vanzant said it. I was in the audience of Oprah’s Lifeclass shows, and though I knew what the shows’ topic was, I was still mulling over this “fatherless/daddyless daughter” tag, even as I sat there. I’ve thought about this label for a few years and it still does not resonate with me. My challenge with the term is this, and I hold this sooooo very dear to my existence and it is my foundation: in my father’s absence he gave me his God/Father, as did my mama; […]

Guest Bloomer: Jude…

Welcome guest bloomer Jude as she shares how she remains VISIBLE as a Womon/Black? ~ ~ ~ As a curvaceous woman of color with a thick natural, it is hard to miss me and yet easy to stare. So the body you see can be labeled in many ways: woman, sister, daughter, best friend, healer, pet-owner. Sometimes I can be the embodiment of these roles and sometimes I must push against the stream to remain in these roles peacefully. I maintain my visibility by not being pushed into the shadows and standing my ground. We are all humans who want […]